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Children imitate Character Stingy Parents

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IN certain ages, fair if the child does not want to share with other people aka cheapskate. Research proves the existence of the characters derived from parent to child, although the process is not merely a process of reduction of certain factors.
Thus, stingy character does not necessarily derived through genes from parents to children. Or a more scientific explanation, for example in terms of size and the workings of organs that influence the quality of character.

In addition, according to A Kasandra Putranto, psychologists from PT Kasandra Persona foreword and Rosdiana Tarigan MPsi MHPEd, a psychologist from Jakarta Pluit Hospital-North, certain characters children learn from parents through parenting, how children live or are treated, imitating , or taught through family values and culture. Therefore, children who can be stingy because of:

Not yet introduced with shared values

It's supposed to be a parent, to give an example or introducing their children by sharing with children and the other one. Because this way children will be example. Children also need to be guided so that is always willing to share.

Only child and youngest child

Accustomed to have everything for himself because of the position as an only child or youngest child. Basically, all the same, nothing compares, not a single child or youngest. Because in educating children, there are no words to choose.

Mimic the behavior of parents

If parents used to give something to someone else, make sure the child knows or dilakuakan in front of children. Thus children would think if parents care about others, especially if parents always gave a good example.

Parents are not accustomed to sharing with his son

Do not occasionally teach children not to share with nature, because children will be recording in the brain. Principally, the child will later grow up to imitate. Especially if the parents do not want to share with children of their own.

Typical ego-distancing

Pattern of development certain age that marks the development of the typical ego, so he tends to satisfy the needs of ourselves than to understand the needs of others. Do not want to share because they want to have all for themselves or are not ashamed to ask yourself when not share because they want to have belonged to someone else.

Tip: Changing the Nature of the Small Stingy

1. Parents and teachers at the school must work together and be able to introduce to share together in a fun way, through song, film or puppet shows are interesting. Scold or exclude children who would likely result in children stingy hurt and further strengthening pelitnya character.

2. Using material religious values and culture, such as spiritual stories or folklore.

3. Using an effective mechanism for changing behavior (shaping), using positive and negative consequences in a fair and rational. For example giving praise and understanding about the benefits of sharing, and showing losses obtained when not willing to share.

4. Accompany the process of formation of personality in order to share these qualities become part of the personality, with the skills to control impulses from within.


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